If this is your first time visiting OysterBed7, Welcome! Please see why sex is my focus, peruse the archives and don’t forget to follow me via facebook fanpage or is such a simple,yet highly effective technique. Give, “Yes!” a try and see if it directs in a gentle and pleasing way. However, one little word isn’t going to be annoying. She insists that I say it in words,” Male respondant on page 52 of Hot Monogamy. “….To add words to lovemaking can dilute it, even degrade it. A breathy whisper will work just fine.įor some lovers, speaking much more than one or two words is distracting from love making. Your, “Yes!” doesn’t have to be over the top like an Herbal Essence commercial. If you find it difficult to speak during a rendezvous, practice saying, “Yes!” while driving in the car (without kiddos, of course). But “yes” works better, especially when you say it with feeling: “Oh, Man, yes!” or “Ooooo, ye-e-es!” Lovers naturally provide more of whatever elicits that magic word, and less of what’s greeted by silence.” Sighs, moans, and groans can communicate arousal. The more you show that you’re turned on, the more turned on your lover is likely to become-and provide what clearly arouses you. Over a few months, just saying “yes” is virtually guaranteed to get you more of what you want and less of what you don’t.Įrotic arousal is contagious. Simply say “yes” when you enjoy what’s happening, and remain silent when you’re less than thrilled. Michael Castelman at Psychology Today states, “If you’re reluctant-or unable-to provide the direction you think your lover needs, here’s a simple, effective, one-word remedy. I agree with her that negativity be kept clear of the delicate marriage bed.īut, if part of your low libido nature could be helped through a more pleasurable experience in the bedroom, I’ve stumbled across three little letters for you.
She makes a very good point, that critical conversations should not take place in the bedroom.
In Friday’s post she gave pointers for courageously being open to Sex Talks with your husband. The Forgiven Wife has started a new series, Stepping out of your Comfort Zone. Love and Robinson, authors of Hot Monogamy, state that couples who can converse together comfortably about their sex life rate their sex life as more satisfying.
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